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Setting up ConKarma across two homes
ConKarma is built so kids can belong to both parents’ Cells without one parent being subordinated to the other’s app. Here’s how to get the multi-cell setup right, what it costs, and what the custody coordination does.
ConKarma supports co-parenting across two homes by giving each parent their own independent Cell that a shared kid can belong to, rather than forcing one parent to join the other's app. Each adult creates a Cell from scratch — your own first Cell is free — and they stay completely separate (separate journals, reward catalogs, and subscriptions) except for the kids who belong to both. A child belonging to both homes is the multi-cell capability; it rides on either parent's Premium, so the child is never charged to be in both. On the kid's device a consolidated home view lets them long-press their avatar to switch which Cell they're acting inside.
The custody schedule is opt-in and shared only when both parents agree to coordinate — never forced. Either parent proposes the weekly pattern and the other accepts or counter-proposes, so no one is bound to a schedule they didn't agree to, and coordination is suppressed under a safety hold. Pick-up reminders fire only to the dropping-off parent so neither becomes the "noise" parent.
Each parent creates their own Cell
Don’t try to share a Cell. Each adult creates one from scratch — your own first Cell is free. Name them anything — kids see them as 'Mom’s home' and 'Dad’s home' once they join. The Cells stay independent: separate journals, separate reward catalogs, separate subscriptions, separate everything except the kids who belong to both.
Inviting the kid to both Cells
Each parent sends a kid invite from their Cell. The kid (or the COPPA-verified parent on their behalf, if under 13) accepts both. Belonging to both homes is the multi-cell capability — it rides on either parent’s Premium, so the child is never charged to be in both, and cost is never the reason a child loses a home. From then on, on the kid’s device, they see one consolidated home view but can long-press their avatar to switch between which Cell they’re acting inside. Mission progress, mood logs, and other personal data stay in the active Cell only.
Custody coordination
The custody schedule is opt-in: it’s shared only when both parents agree to coordinate, and it’s never forced on either household. Either parent proposes the weekly pattern with one-off overrides; the other accepts or counter-proposes, so no one is bound to a schedule they didn’t agree to. The overlay then paints which home each day belongs to as a band under regular calendar events. Pick-up reminders fire only to the dropping-off parent — never both — so neither of you turns into the 'noise' parent. If a safety hold is in place on either side, coordination is suppressed rather than surfaced.
What stays private to your Cell
Your journal, your couples surface (if any), your reward catalog, your DNA, your photos. Other parents only see the cross-Cell shared layer: the calendar (with the custody overlay), kid mission progress, and chore completion. There’s no way for one parent to read another parent’s private writing — by design, not by setting.
Frequently asked questions
Should we share one Cell between both homes?
No — each parent creates their own Cell. They stay independent (separate journals, reward catalogs, and subscriptions); the only thing shared is the kids who join both, who see them as "Mom's home" and "Dad's home."
How does my kid belong to both homes, and does it cost the kid anything?
Each parent sends a kid invite from their own Cell, and the kid (or the COPPA-verified parent for under-13s) accepts both. Belonging to both homes rides on either parent's Premium — the child is never charged. On the kid's device they get one consolidated home view and long-press their avatar to switch which Cell they're acting inside.
Can the other parent read my private writing?
No — by design, not by setting. Your journal, reward catalog, and photos stay private to your Cell. The other parent only sees the shared layer: the calendar with the custody overlay, kid mission progress, and chore completion.
How do pick-up reminders work without nagging both of us?
Set the custody schedule together — either parent proposes the weekly pattern and the other accepts or counter-proposes, so it's never forced, and it's suppressed under a safety hold. Pick-up reminders then fire only to the dropping-off parent, never both.